Trying to be non-needy to be attractive means you're trying to >impress people, which means you care what they think, which >means you're needy. Again, there's the "investing in self" advice, but which of this guys you think invested more? So a broke loser can get girls where a successful guy can't, because the broke loser has more value to himself.īut can you clarify how this broke loser achieved this mindset? I can't find it in a book despite reading these chapters several times.
Which of these guys invested more in themselves? Yes I understand, "investing" means self improvement, right? Than why are there so many guys who spent their college days wisely and have a good job and don't have any success with women? And on the other hand you have Manson, who after college cannot afford a place to live and swims in pussy. Just to explain points 1 & 2, "investing" doesn't mean that money and status get you women The point with Models, like with all books, isn't to absorb every detail, but to find points that resonate with you and utilize those. I'm not going to say the book is perfect, or that Mark deserves to be worshipped as the god of all PUAs, but what I took from the book makes sense to me. You should only be trying to improve yourself for yourself. Trying to be non-needy to be attractive means you're trying to impress people, which means you care what they think, which means you're needy. So a broke loser can get girls where a successful guy can't, because the broke loser has more value to himself.įor the needy paradox, it makes sense. Getting money and status helps with that (a millionaire doesn't stress over money like a normal person would), but if you don't have the right mindset it won't do anything for you.
By investing, you are increasing your self-worth. This is what he means as "non-needy", being able to independently love yourself regardless of outside stimuli. Seeing yourself as valuable is what attracts women. Just to try explain points 1 & 2, "investing" doesn't mean that money and status get you women. Just the fact that it was written by 26yo guy without any psychological background says a lot about it.
I simply don't see why this book is so glorified on this sub.
For over 100 pages he talks about things like True Confidence and Non-neediness, but then the only real advice on how to achieve them is: get a therapy, talk about your issues (actually a good advice), invest in yourself. When it comes to being non-needy, if you are trying to be non-needy so you can be more attractive, then you’re paradoxically being needy.Ĥ. Then he says you should practice non-needy behaviors, but if you go to this link: You will read: He says "investing in yourself" is the key to being attractive, then he tells stories about guys with great education/fit/well traveled etc. (I know "investing" doesn't relate to money here, but you cannot say he invested a lot in himself if he doesn't even have place to live). Manson says you have to "invest in your self" to stop being needy, then he mentions how he was broke and unemployed after college and still was banging every girl out there.
It's just so full of contradictions it's not even funny. Am I the only person here who find this book rather poor?